Timing Matters. Know the Season of Life you are in when making major decisions.

May 1st, 2016

This week in our series "What to do when you don't know what to do, we'll look at several new ideas which can help us to make good choices and then live at peace with the consequences they bring.

First: Every big choice, if in fact there really is some choosing to do will be difficult to make and require substantial effort. Very few big choices that are choices are obviously the only right choice. Know that it's normal to struggle with big decisions. Expect it, don't be surprised by it.

Second: Choose in ways that have the potential for great outcomes. Safe decisions may keep you smiling all the time, but you'll experience the regret of lost opportunity later on. Choose so you won't regret your behavior and you won't regret the risks you took in attempting some worthy but difficult mission.

Third: Know the season of life you are in when making choices. Certain options are right for any season of life while others may be noble options, but just not for the season of life you're living through now. Don't abandon the good work which you're now doing to chase after some other good work. Finish what you've begun first.

Fourth: It's not unusual (even if it is surprising to many) that even God's people will not always feel God's presence and assurance while living through difficult seasons brought on by tough choices. Jesus promised to be with us, but that didn't translate into sensing his presence at all times or having life look like we'd expect it would if God were walking with us. Sometimes we just have to gut it out on the promises we received and the knowledge that the choices were good ones even if they bring us pain or difficulty.

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The word is Responsibility.

April 24th, 2016

Choice. It's a great gift. The freedom and the wisdom to choose make a great combination. Still, decisions alone don't amount to all that much. It's actually our follow-through, the willingness to manage the choices which we've already made that counts. Therefore, when we want to make great choices, not only do we need the wisdom to choose well, but the discernment to determine if we can and want to manage what we've chosen. Here's the way we're saying this. Once we OBTAIN something we have an ongoing responsibility to MAINTAIN it. That's true for relationships, for positions, for possessions. What we obtain, we must then maintain. So, if we are not first ready to maintain, that alone should call into question the sense or prudence of or wanting to obtain it.

Let's dig into that idea together.

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What to do when you don’t know what to do. Managing Previously made choices.

April 17th, 2016

The choices you make are the life you have. Maybe you should re-read that. That's essentially true for you if you are over the age of 25.  Up till that time, you may be able to look back across your life and rightfully say that others have predominately influenced where you are. But at some critical point in life, we cross an imaginary line. It's the line of ownership. On one side of the line you may point to others; teachers, parents, coaches, etc and say of them "they made me who I am". To a large extent you'd be correct. But on the other side of that invisible divide, you are the predominate influencer of who you are, where you are, and with whom you share life. From that moment on, whenever that is - and it would certainly be hard to measure - your choices are the thing which has most fashioned the life you live.

So, understanding choice and how to choose well, and how to manage choices already made, really is the substance of your life. Let's dig in and look at that today.

 

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What to do when you don’t know what to do. Week 1

April 10th, 2016

We've all agonized over making decisions, trying to figure out the best from among many good options. Of course, we've each made some known bad choices. This will probably go badly sooner or later, but I really want this. Yeah, humans are like that. Even ones who claim to follow Jesus. Still, one of the most commonly posed questions is "what is God's will in this situation?". 

After a short overview covering the purpose for men's ministry, we'll take our first look at figuring out what to do when we're confused, perplexed, or merely stuck and without clear best and worst options.

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Humility and Forgiveness

April 3rd, 2016

Every matter of personal or public morality must pass a test that makes it morally imperative. We often take moral positions.  But do we understand why they are valid? Do we know why they are right? This week we'll look at the values of humility and forgiveness and why they are more than just moral ideas or nice ideas. It's important for each man to know why what he believes works and is the best possible belief.  

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Trustworthy in Relationships Review

March 27th, 2016

This week we wrap up our series on the 6 qualities of a man who is trustworthy in relationships. But we're adding two additional qualities we find present in Jesus and which will be essential relational tools if we wish to restore wholeness to broken or frayed relational ties.

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Motives, Methods, Objectives and Outcomes…why do you call me good

March 20th, 2016

In the lives of most people subtle shifts occur. They continue doing the same things and from all outward appearances, all is constant. But beneath the visible surface of a man's life can arise small and gradual shifts in the motivation behind a man's activities and desires. Sure, we're still doing the same things we once did, but we no longer do them for the same good or noble reasons we once had. Sometimes we come to God seeking answers we want and He shows us things we'd rather not confront.  In the same way that the creep of motivation takes time, the process of sorting out and returning to our first passions will also take time. Let's look at that this week.

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Keeping our Important Relationships Personal

March 6th, 2016

Guest speaker John Heillman shares his story and ways in which important relationships have been personal to him

 

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Governed by Love

February 28th, 2016

In this - our 4th part in the series "Trustworthy" we're looking at the role that love plays in mending broken relationships and bringing vibrancy to functional ones. What gets in the way of love? What does love look like in daily relational life? This week's podcast will feel a bit like an buffet of information. Listen along carefully and grab then things which can help you most and add to your repertoire of relationship skills and practices.

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Engaged and Committed in Relationships

February 21st, 2016

For the last few weeks we've be considering the qualities and attributes which will help any man to excel in maintaining healthy relationships while also being the same ones which can best facilitate the mending or healing of damaged ones. This week we continue in that pursuit by looking at the quality of covenant commitment in our most important relationships.

 

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